Part of the problem of "T" being here is the logistics. To get back and forth from here to the island, first off is around $10 in gas per trip to the ferry, then if I chose to walk on, it is $10 for day parking, and another $13.00 to walk on one way for me, and around $8.00 for "T". That adds up to $54 to get her here or there if she is only traveling one way. If I chose to drive on, and stay for a few days, the ferry then jumps to over $100 round trip, they don't make it cheap to take a car, so that really adds up! The trip takes 2 hours, and if it is round trip (pick up/drop off) then it is 5hours when you account for unloading/loading on the other side. It is an hours drive there and back to the terminal, so pretty much a full day of travel. When "T" is here, my daughter talks on the phone every night, and we have MSN and webcams, so the connection is still there, but really not the same. Of course, that is done in reverse with me when she is there.
My daughter and I have discussed it, and she is going through the same feelings as me, as a mom, she wants her daughter home with her, but,, she also knows what I am like as a mom, which in turn is what I am like as a grandma, and as I said in the last post, it comes down to guilt on both our parts. Is Tela,, yes,, that's her name,, lol,, better off home but with not a lot of contact with mom because of work, or here, where I can give her all my time, but she will be missing the bonding time with mom even more. I have put thought into moving back to the island a few times, but as I have also pointed out previously, I need to move on with my life, and moving back I feel will just put me back, not move me forward. It was a huge thing to start the buying process on the townhouse, as that pretty much cemented the staying here.
Tela's dad lives on the island, he has 4 other kids, and she stays in contact with him when she is here (phone and msn etc), and when she is home she sees him as much as he can take her, so that contact isn't broken. He is fine with her being here, because he thinks I am pretty awesome,, lol. He has known me since he was 15, so he knows me really well. The good thing here is no matter where Tela is, she is happy, safe, loved and all the things you can wish for a child. I sadly know grandparents who have grandchildren in unsafe homes, and are fighting to get them out. I have the peace of mind that isn't the case.
On a really good note, I have a full pot of coffee on the counter, and Coronation Street on the tv, so I am off to enjoy both,, have a great Sunday!